Loving yourself is easy

One day, whether you are 14, 28 or 65 – you will stumble upon someone who will start a fire in you that cannot die. However, the saddest, most awful truth you will ever come to find — they are not always with whom we spend our lives.

I came across this quote and it got me thinking. Ok yes, it kinda killed my hopes of the having the fairytale dream that I wish for in my twenties, (Prince Charming, happily ever afters, and everything) but it also helped me gain some perspective.

I am a Pisces, which is a water sign. It means I am free-spirited and I love to dream. My emotions are literally always all over the place and when I feel something, whether it’s love or hate, I feel it with a passion. Not everyone is similar in that sense as an individual but everyone at some point experiences strong feelings.

Everyone also has experiences of love. Some people love food, some love money, some love family, friends and some fall madly and deeply in love. I’m saying 'some' but let’s face it, each and every one of us will have the experience in our own way.

We like to blame loads of things for the root of all of our problems (people, religion, our situations) however sometimes I believe that if you think about it -we are the cause of most of our own problems. Someone once told me that you shouldn’t let the things you cant control bring you down.

Loving someone or something deep enough ignites the fire in you to fight and sometimes fighting can get you into bad situations.

A lot of the time, I’m told I put everyone else’s happiness before mine and then wonder why I get upset so easily. But I’ve realized that I should mirror all the love that I put into all of my passions and all the people I love - into myself. Simple.

Your ability to love yourself depends on your ability to love others, whilst if you love yourself, you will have a greater ability to also love others.

You cannot separate the love for yourself from the love for others.

Hopefully, I can now practice what I preach.